Bullet Journaling for Better Relationships This New Year

Aiming for a Better New Year

This was a crazy year for me. It was the first full year I’ve spent as a college graduate, I moved across the country from my parents, and got my first “big girl” job. While a lot of great things happened in my life, I knew that being away from family and friends in college had really taken a toll on my personal relationships. I’m a scatter-brained workaholic introvert. I’m at peace with this, but I do always want to try and improve. I wasn’t staying in touch as much as I should have been, and this was the year I decided to take back my social life with the help of bullet journaling!

Materials Used:

• Leuchtturm 1917 Dotted A5 Journal
• 0.38 Pilot Juice Pen – Black
• Crayola Supertips Markers
• Tombow Dual Tip Brush Marker
• Uniball Signo White Pen
• Muji Gel Pens
• Tombow Fudenosuke Brush Pen in Soft

Birthday and Anniversary Trackers

Admittedly, I’m one of those horrible people who only remembers birthdays when Facebook tells me to. As someone who loves sending cards and presents, I always kicked myself when I missed another birthday. Now I have everything easily accessible in my yearly log, and when I plan out each month in advance, I make sure to note whose birthdays are happening that month so I can plan accordingly. Setting up the first monthly log is crucial for tracking birthdays and anniversaries, ensuring you never miss an important date. I’ve started to keep track of EVERYTHING this year, from baby due dates to anniversaries. One of my friends recently commented that I “remember everything,” and I had to silently thank my bujo for helping! I usually just track all of this on my year-at-a-glance, but if you have enough important birthdays to keep track of (or an especially large family), you can keep a separate tracker.

Monthly Contact Tracker

I actually started doing this one as an experiment one month to try and quantify how often I keep in touch with my family and a few close friends. It turned out to be a great experiment that pushed me to send more cards, call more often, and generally try to make more plans with those that I love. I’m a data nerd and having this kind of visualization of my social life really pushed me to try harder. I now do this every month just for fun, and I think it’s helped my relationships (especially with my extended family, who I am guilty of going months without calling previously) quite a lot!

Local To-Do List

This has become an absolute LIFESAVER when it comes to making plans. My friends and I often refer to ourselves as “adventurous homebodies.” We love going out and doing fun things, but we hate coming up with ideas. Growing up in Los Angeles was fun, but it also meant that we’ve all become a little jaded when it comes to heading to the more touristy parts of town (where all the fun stuff is).

This tracker was created with boredom in mind. I spent a night on Google scouring the internet for all of the fun hidden gems in the LA area. And every time I see a friend doing something Facebook, it gets added to my list! So far, I’ve got a running list of great restaurants, bars, and museums in the area that have made for some pretty unforgettable Girls’ Nights this year!

You can branch off of this idea in many ways as well, depending on your hobbies. One of our favorite activities to do as a group is hiking, and I’m currently working on a separate list of places to go hiking and camping this year!

Date Night List

This is similar to my local to-do list but with romance in mind! I’ve been with my boyfriend for eight years. We’ve fallen into a rut with our dates, either going to Disneyland (we have season passes and, don’t get me wrong, I love it, but we’ve gone 50 times this year….I counted….) or staying at home, ordering pizza, and binge-watching something on Netflix.

So I created this list as a kick in the butt for us to get out of the house more this year and it has been SO fun. We’ve been working our way through this list all year and I’m already working on our list. This has really encouraged both of us to get out of our comfort zones, try new things, and create wonderful new memories together. Having everything put together in one list makes it even easier to plan great new dates.

Pen Pal Lists

This has been such a fun addition to my bullet journal as well (no photo, as it contains personal info, sorry)! I’m always trying to make new friends, and the Bullet Journal community has blessed me with several new pen pals. We send each other cards and gifts all the time. There’s real beauty in connecting with a total stranger and befriending them

On a side note, I’ve also spent a lot more time this year sending people cards “just because.” Every time someone receives the card, I get a phone call about how much they enjoyed it. It’s such a simple thing that you can do that will bring so much joy to someone else’s day!

Overcoming Relationship Challenges with Bullet Journaling

Relationships can be challenging, but bullet journaling can be a powerful tool for overcoming these challenges. By using a bullet journal to track and reflect on your relationships, you can identify patterns and areas for improvement. Here are some ways that bullet journaling can help:

• Tracking Communication: By keeping a record of your communication with others, you can identify patterns and areas where you might need to improve. For example, if you notice that you haven’t called a friend in a while, you can make a note to reach out and reconnect.
• Reflecting on Conflicts: By reflecting on conflicts and disagreements in your journal, you can identify patterns and work on resolving issues more effectively. This can help you understand the root causes of conflicts and develop strategies for better communication and resolution.
• Improving Empathy and Understanding: By tracking and reflecting on your interactions and relationships, you can develop a deeper understanding of others’ perspectives and feelings. This can help you become more empathetic and improve your relationships.
• Setting Boundaries: By using your bullet journal to track and reflect on your relationships, you can set healthy boundaries and prioritize your own needs. This can help you maintain a healthy balance between your personal and relationship goals.

Some tips for using bullet journaling to overcome relationship challenges include:

• Be Honest and Authentic: Be honest and authentic in your journaling, and don’t be afraid to confront difficult emotions and challenges. This can help you gain a deeper understanding of your relationships and identify areas for improvement.
• Practice Self-Care: Practice self-care and prioritize your own needs and well-being. This can help you maintain a healthy balance between your personal and relationship goals.
• Seek Support: Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed. Sometimes, talking to someone else can provide valuable insights and help you navigate relationship challenges.
• Reflect and Review: Reflect and review your journal regularly to identify patterns and areas for improvement. This can help you stay on top of your relationship goals and make positive changes.

By using these strategies, you can leverage the power of bullet journaling to overcome relationship challenges and build stronger, healthier connections with your loved ones.

Looking Ahead

Overall, I’ve spent a lot more time this year investing in my personal relationships, and it’s paid off in dividends in terms of my overall happiness. If you’re like me and tend to live inside your own head, it definitely helps. Sometimes keeping track of the little things is just the push you need to get started. I definitely plan on using all of these trackers and tips again this year, and will hopefully develop new ways to spend time with my loved ones in the coming months!

Setting up a new monthly log is crucial for future planning. It allows you to review completed and pending tasks from previous months and decide which ones to transfer, ensuring your Bullet Journal remains efficient and organized.

I wish you the best of luck in your relationships next year, and hopefully, you’ve gained a bit of inspiration from this list!